For a hero to have the 'it factor,' he has to have a type of compassion that appeals to women. He has to actually listen and be a great communicator. He has to have a type of charisma and confidence yet be fun-loving and caring. It's not something that's easy to pull off, and it's tough to learn.
Here are a few things that I found in my research that make sense for the guy with the 'it factor' that women love:
- confident, but not cocky
- focused on others, not on themselves
- great storytellers and public speakers
- interesting and interested in others
- authentic and engaging
- optimistic, assertive, and yet caring
It's all about attitude and caring about others. Some jobs lend themselves more toward this type of attitude, where the person's job is to care about others. Some of these jobs include doctors, police officers, ministers, counselors, psychologists, teachers, and so on. If you notice, many romance novels include these professions for the hero, because it gives the heroine a warm feeling about the hero.
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