Friday, November 4, 2016

Showing a Character's Admiration

Admiration and respect go hand-in-hand.  When writing romances, it's imperative that the hero and heroine eventually show that they admire and respect the other partner.  It's different for how to respect the different genders, so I'm going to focus on the man here.  That's not to say that women don't need respect, but the man demands it if the romance is going to work.

So what is admiration?  According to dictionary.com:



And respect (as a verb):

Both of these words refer to holding someone in esteem, to appreciate someone, to approve of the person.  Admiration, to me, indicates more of an emotional response.  Respect, to me, is more of a way to appreciate someone's character.  

So how do you show admiration for someone?

Here are a few ideas:

  • put the person on a pedestal--they become like a hero
  • compliment/praise the person
  • ask for the person's advice and opinions
  • draw attention to their positive qualities
  • nonverbal ways--facial expressions and body movement of happiness and praise

I like these quotes, from How do you show admiration and praise?:

Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary. ~ Margaret Cousins
As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. ~ John F. Kennedy
Praise is like sunlight to the human spirit: we cannot flower and grow without it. ~ Jess Lair

And, from How Men Feel Love, Your Admiration and Respect Is Key To His Happiness:

Men cannot thrive in a deep passionate type of relationship unless they feel they have a woman’s admiration and respect.

Have a great day!
Sweet Tale Books


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Reference:

Practical Ways a Wife Can Show Admiration to Her Husband
How do you show admiration and praise?
How Men Feel Love, Your Admiration and Respect Is Key To His Happiness

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